Domestic abuse can happen to anyone. It can happen to family members, to closest friends and even to you. And one of the worst things about abusive relationships is that they are often ignored, excused or denied. Domestic violence can cover both physical and psychological abuse, and dealing with such traumatic situations will always require outside help and support.
One of the most important steps that you can do to end abusive relationships is to acknowledge it. Most of the time, women (and even men) fall into a state of denial, which can fuel the physical and emotional abuse even more. Tolerating such behavior can be very dangerous and even fatal to abused victims.
Always remember that being in an abusive relationship is not something that you should be ashamed of. Never keep these things in the dark. There are hundreds, even thousands of men and women who go through the same things as you. And most importantly, there are also a lot of people who are more willing to help you out – family, friends and domestic violence support groups.
Studies have revealed that abusive relationships, more commonly known as domestic or spousal abuse, is done mainly out of jealousy or control. They use force, threats, violence, intimidation, guilt and shame to have their way. In most cases, abusers go as far as threatening other people in the family as well.
After you have acknowledged your situation, the very next step that you need to do is to take control. Your husband, wife, mother, father or sibling has no right to hurt you – regardless of your relations. Make sure that there will never be a next time. Never be afraid to take a stand because as mentioned before, there are a lot of people who are willing to give you support. There are also laws that can protect you from such kinds of violence.
It can be very challenging to get out of abusive relationships and you will need every bit of support that you can get. So to make things a bit lighter and easier for you, find a trusted family member or a close friend that you can really confide in. Make sure that he or she can be easily reached at all times in case you need someone to come and get you from your house or from dangerous encounters with the abuser.
Or better yet, find a professional who can give you legal or medical aid – such as a lawyer or a medical professional who can assess your injuries and use this as tangible evidence if you plan to purse this case in court.
After you have done this, you can also expand your network and find other friends who can give you relationship advice and guidance. There are plenty of support groups and organizations that are made especially for domestic violence victims. They should be able to give you a complete and thorough network of legal and medical support systems.
There are many spouses who suffer from abusive relationships for years, but this does not have to be so. There is a way for you to break free. All you need to do is make that stand and seek the right kind of help and support.